I Don’t Have the Money

Andy first called me to get her home and financial paperwork in order. Afraid to approach her money situation, we first de-cluttered and rearranged her rooms, including setting up new office space and filing system. Everything looked and felt better, even beautiful. 

After two months of in-home clearing sessions, we began weekly phone coaching to reinforce what she had learned to stay de-cluttered. We were getting closer to where she didn’t want to go – her finances.

One day Andy announced, “I love working with you, but I can’t afford your help anymore.”

“OK, I understand, but how do you know that?” I asked.

“I just know,” she said.

What I knew was that Andy dealt with her finances by not looking. She made decisions based on her level of anxiety, not how much money she had.

I said, “ClutterClarity is all about making good decisions. Now that your paperwork is in order, you do need skilled help to manage your money.  Before we stop, let me help you make a fully informed decision on what to do next.”

“OK, that sounds good. I just don’t want to know.”

Not sure what she meant, I asked, “What don’t you want to know?”

She lamented, “I don’t know… I’m just tired of taking care of my parents when they didn’t exactly help me out when I needed it.”

I said. “Your intentions are good, Andy.  You are giving them the help you wish you had received. The problem is the amount you now give perpetuates the myth that you are wealthy.  You are continuing their neglect by neglecting yourself - the very thing you don’t want.”

She said, “I never thought of it that way.”

“I suspect that what you don’t want is to know is how much this is costing you. Are you willing to let go of the myth and resentment - the emotional clutter that’s getting in the way of your financial maturity? Think about it.”

The following week, we talked about viable options and in two weeks Andy found and enrolled in a reasonably priced three month financial coaching program - the support she needed to take better care of her finances and family, including herself.

Andy may not like what she finds out, but she’ll be more confident for taking charge and knowing what’s real.

She even signed up for our phone coaching to continue in four months. Thursday at 10 AM will be all hers again!