Getting Free of the Bedroom Mess

I often work with people who have clothes all over the bedroom. It's laundry day only when it gets unbearable. One woman had a very organized husband who tolerated this, but she felt horrible. 

As we de-cluttered her closet to make room for the clothes she loved, we talked and clarity surfaced... her “clothes-dropping habit” was a rebellion against her very strict mother. Throwing her clothes on the floor showed her mom who was in charge now.  

Ironically, her mother still ruled the house.  I suggested that she rebel against the rebellion, and express her authority on her own terms. 

My client began to untangle the mess, and mindfully put her clothes away, in little bits every day. Gradually, she replaced the habit of mindlessly reacting to her mother with the freedom to choose how to keep her own home. 

Making the change mattered because she mattered. My client felt great.  And so did her husband. A lot of things improve in her bedroom when things are in their proper place.